I have been wanting to write more personally about masculine and feminine cultivation in relationship for some time, and what it is like as a woman who is aware that her own cultivation is most intimately bound to that of her partners, and how in order to build being and creatively dream reality there is a natural and necessary call to him (my man) to step more and more into his masculinity.

As a woman in relationship I love to be able to go deeply in my feminine essence with men, its is where my strongest cultivation lies, as in, by just being what is most inherent to me, which brings me joy, I naturally call in more masculinity to meet that; which then in turn pulls more out of me and begins to carve and shape me, and thus the cultivation continues. He becomes more him and I become more her; and this is all naturally arising, this is not a conceptual thing, its an embodied living experience.

What is so profound and moves me to love someone so deeply; is that I am having this really rich experience of him on the deepest level, who he truly is that is unique and specific; not a projection, not an overlay, an embodied awareness of his crystalline nature; that is rooted in the inherent qualities of his nature ~ which always matches qualities that are inherent to me. Foundationally I recognise we are in and of the same, essentially so, and there has been enough claiming there to match my own which creates the magnetism; It is from that basic horizon where the qualities of awareness first appear, uniqueness begins to build and births the masculine and begins to move forwards taking on chosen forms.

I find myself choosing to be with men who have cultivated these deeply rich natures and forms, embedded in emptiness yet so profoundly uniquely appearing to me (they feel like one a million to me, and that adds to the richness, it is not just any man ~ it is natural and obvious, this now, it is him). What attracts me primarily is the quality of being, usually the essential qualities of beauty and purity and then rich quality of masculinity they have is related to their embodiement and chosen forms, that matches the cultivation of feminine in me and my own chosen forms.

I recognise they match how my own masculine and feminine appears within me. This is why knowing my own masculine and feminine is so key, to recognising my match and who nature is guiding me to share with.

Seeing another on the deepest level compels all that is woman in me to draw the masculinity out of him, this is as naturally occurring as the full moon pulling on the water creating tides and rhythms and new cycles to life. Everything in me becomes available to this, because I know that in doing so, he is the one who can cultivate me, in return beyond what feels possible on my own; he has the capacity to direct me beyond what is known and I encourage him beyond what is experience before. I am aware I use the word "doing" when what is arising is spontaneous, being authentic and embodying my nature go hand in hand.

This process of natural cultivation is deeply beautiful and opens up the deepest levels of love as it gives living context for magic to express through. For the fruition and freedom to blossom; one must be fully inclusive of all parts of us, parts of ourselves that may not appearing unified within the relating or whole, perhaps contrasting desires and even chosen life paths; every angle of reality/self can be up for investigation through this natural cultivation, basic assumptions may need to be visited; definitions of relationship must first bow to the natural arising and be willing to transform along with the cultivation; this is to create your own unique relating between you beyond ideas of self and other.

The challenge of relationship emerging and resonating so close to origin within you, is it will churn up anything in you that is not yet unified with your deepest nature; this can give the impression something is not right, or perhaps wrong or not matching, this is just consciousness highlighting areas either of separation within reality, or areas that are just up for inclusion in the cultivation. The gaps are best seen as creative factors, that may still be brewing and not fully organised in to the whole yet and will mysterious inform the whole when they come into play. The key to transformation is the willingness to be deeply changed, key to flow is letting go of outcome, inclusion of the partnership falling away; as in the full capacity to let them as a sacred other go, and full willingness to claim what feels inherent to you; and thus them as a part of that, with or without the continuation of the relationship. The key to freedom here is knowing you are what is deeper than both masculine and feminine, what is inherently unsharable in nature.

The devotion must be always to the ground of freedom, and this must the mutual agreement between me and my partner; we are coming together in love, because it is naturally appearing, compelling and unique ~ and why are we doing so ~ to remember who we are; as infinity; and then the natural effect of that in embodied relationship is to take on new forms together; that creates a unique sharing between the two of you, imbued with magic. This is my foundation